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For those days you need extra motivation to let go of perfect and create your own rules for life
A story of Hope On This Election Day
It's election day today. I'm feeling a weird elixir of fear, anxiety, and hope.I feel them all - and I choose hope. I have to choose hope. I just have to. I have to believe that love and empathy will help us find our way towards healing in our country. I have to believe, because the alternative simply isn't an option.
It’s Time To Reassess Your Boundaries - Here’s How
You're seven months into Covid. A situation you probably never thought much about before it actually happened. And DEFINITELY a situation you never thought would still be going on and affecting your daily life. Now is the time to reassess. To set boundaries between your work and the rest of your life ON PURPOSE.
How To Get Through Fear
June 2017 was a month of HUGE uncertainty for me. I had internally decided to leave my job and become an entrepreneur, but I hadn’t actually pulled the trigger. About 90% of the time I was excited for the possibilities. The other 10% of the time I felt like someone had wrapped a corset around my lungs and pulled the strings tight. Here’s how I dealt with that fear.
Three Steps To Set Better Boundaries
After getting shingles at age 30, I knew I had to set better boundaries. It's been a learning process and I haven't always been 100% great, but here are the three key steps that have helped me to get WAY better at setting boundaries so that I'm not stressed, overwhelmed, and sick - and have more time for the things in my life that matter.
How To Stop Worrying About Disappointing People
I recently hosted a webinar on letting go of perfect and living your truth with 100 women. The fear of disappointing people was the NUMBER ONE thing women shared that was standing in their way. So what can you do about it? How can you get past the fear of disappointing people so you can live your own truth? Here are three steps to help you get there.
My Favorite Brené Brown Quotes
Here are my favorite Brené Brown quotes set against photos I’ve taken over the past several years. Reading them reminds me to embrace vulnerability and feel deeply. They give me the courage to again bring my full self forward into the world. I hope they do the same for you.
Five Steps To Let Go Of Perfectionism
Feeling like you constantly have to work harder and do more can lead to burnout. Worrying about making a mistake can cause stress and anxiety. All the pressure you're putting on yourself to be successful is a weight on your shoulders, dragging you down. Here are 5 steps you can use today to let go of perfectionism and feel FREE.
The Key To Dealing With Big Emotions (and the little ones too)
On Saturday I had the time to feel for the first time in a long time. And A LOT came up I wasn't expecting. During these past few months, I've tried to give myself the space to journal and feel my emotions as they came up, but, honestly, I didn't really have time.
How To Slow Down and Say No When You’re Worried About Disappointing People
Yesterday I got a message from someone who just finished reading my book, An Overachiever's Guide To Breaking The Rules: How To Let Go Of Perfect and Live Your Truth that said: "I'm living more abundantly and at a MUCH slower pace AND no one has criticized me like I thought they would for not being Johnny on the spot with work or schedules."
A Different Way To Make Big Decisions - AKA, Why I Decided To Move To Colorado
Yesterday I moved to Colorado. I packed up my Honda Civic as full as humanly possible, left my parent's house at 6:45am and by 7:15pm I was in Colorado. On paper, it didn't really make sense for me to move. I had a GREAT life in Minnesota. But I moved to Colorado anyway. Because it wasn't about LEAVING Minnesota. It was about moving TO Colorado.
Keeping The Faith
On my last day in Slovenia I decided to do what I enjoy most: walk. I had walked all over Slovenia during my 10-day trip – on mountain paths to waterfalls, down country lanes past herds of sheep and cows, on boardwalks through gorges.
Knowing when to do less
Last week I pulled the plug on a plan I'd had for months. And it felt AWESOME.
Cyndi Lauper, platform shoes, and what REALLY makes you powerful
Cyndi Lauper embodied a totally different kind of power than what we would traditionally define as powerful. She was powerful in her joy. In her light. In her FREEDOM.
The single most important question to ask yourself to get past the fear of disappointing people
The fear of disappointing people was underneath so many other situations – having a hard time saying no, feeling like everything has to be perfect…
Why living the life you desire isn’t selfish
Letting go of everything you’ve been taught you were SUPPOSED to want and instead showing up to live the life you ACTUALLY want?
How to make a difference when you’re completely overwhelmed
I want to tell you a short story about how a single sentence changed my entire perspective on making a difference – and how it can change yours, too…
Undoing the overdoing
Last week I went to my physical therapist to get some help with some minor but persistent low-back, hip, tailbone pain. She demoed a new core exercise that was basically like the tiniest bicycle twist you can imagine – and then had me try it…
Staying true to yourself when you want to make people happy
One of the women in Beyond Perfect recently said in one of our group calls, “I just want to please others and be true to myself.”I’m going to tell you a hard truth…